The thought of delivering a eulogy can feel overwhelming sometimes. There’s probably a lot you would like to say about the person you have lost, and you may also find it hard to speak about them without feeling emotional. Try to remember that it is natural to be upset, and that everybody at the funeral is there to encourage and comfort you. 

We’ve put this guide together to help you to get through delivering a eulogy.

Plan Ahead

Planning out your speech in advance is one of the best ways to ensure you get through your eulogy. Public speaking can be challenging, but even more so if you are unprepared. So, write out a few notes, or even the entire piece, at least a few days before the service. This way, you are less likely to freeze up or blank on what you would like to say. Planning ahead also means you will also be able to keep track of how long your speech will take. This is particularly important for time-bound services.

Pace Yourself

When delivering the eulogy, there’s no need to rush through. Instead, speak at a gentle, comfortable pace. This way the congregation will be able to keep up with you and really take in what you are saying. Talking slowly will also enable you to have better control over your breathing, especially if you become emotional when delivering the eulogy. 

Keep Tissues On You

Make sure to keep tissues with you on the day of the funeral. Even if you are not an emotional person, you may find you need them when the time comes to deliver the eulogy. Being prepared with some tissues means you can wipe away any tears or make up which may distract from your speech.


Finally, remember to breathe whilst speaking the eulogy. Steady breathing will help you to stay more composed, and will help you to deliver your speech better. You can also pause and take some deep breaths during your speech if you need to. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you struggle to speak at times, or even cry. Everyone will admire and respect your bravery, and will be proud of you for undertaking such a difficult task.

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When attending a funeral, being self aware and behaving in a respectful manner is of utmost importance. Not only will this make the grieving family feel supported, but is also a way of honouring the deceased. If you’d like to know our tips for funeral etiquette, keep reading.

1. Dress Appropriately 

Traditionally, many people wear black clothing to funerals. This is because the colour black is largely associated with death and mourning. However, as long as your clothing is clean and smart, you can be a bit more adventurous with the colour.  For men, a suit and tie is always a sensible choice. Women may also wear a suit, but a smart dress, or skirt and blouse are also appropriate. If there is a dress code or particular colour scheme for a funeral, the family will usually inform all guests in advance. 

2. Switch Your Phone Off

Always ensure your phone is turned off before the funeral begins. Ideally, you should do this before entering the chapel and finding your seat. If you do not wish to switch off your phone, set it to silent and avoid using it for the duration of the service.

3. Don't Give Unsolicited Advice

Although phrases such as ‘don’t cry’ or ‘everything happens for a reason’ are often said to those who have lost a loved one, these sentiments are not the most helpful advice. Even if they are meant sincerely, it is best not to challenge people’s feelings on an emotional day. Instead, reassure others that you will be there for them, or that they can count on you if they need additional support. 

4. Pay Your Respects

Although you may be at a loss for what to say, it is important to greet and pay your respects to the grieving family. Simply offering your condolences and reassurance will be well-received.

5. Arrive To The Funeral On Time

Never arrive late to a funeral. This can be incredibly insulting and disrespectful to the family of the deceased. Therefore, it is crucial you plan ahead and allow yourself plenty of time to get to the venue before the service begins. Arriving on time shows that you are taking the formality of the day and the feelings of others seriously.

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Please contact our compassionate team today to discuss our funeral plans and services.

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